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Let me start by saying that I know how painful and heartbreaking it is to be thinking about what you are going to do once your little one has left this Earth, but it is something that you HAVE TO try your hardest at because it is something that can’t be avoided! Now, the first thing that came to our minds was,“What do we do?”! We had no idea where to start, but after some searching and talking to different people about it, I was told that there are a lot of funeral homes that do everything FREE of charge for families who have lost their baby/infant. This was a great relief to us, because if you don’t already know, having a funeral and burying a loved one costs a BUNCH of money due to everything that must be set-up and taken care of. You can read my post called, “Usual Fees Charged By Funeral Home And Cemetery”, so that you can get an idea of how much money it really is, what kind of decisions you will still have to make, even if it is all provided free of charge and so that you will see what a blessing these funeral homes are providing to families like ours! We found an amazing funeral home in our area that provided their services free of charge and got everything all set up, but we had to do all of the arrangements AFTER our baby girl left us, because we kept putting it off and thought we had more time to do it. Take my advice when I say, you do NOT want to spend the days right after such a tragic loss of your little one, trying to make all of the arrangements and getting everything set-up, because those first few days will be the hardest and already stressful enough! You want to spend those 2 or 3 days before your baby’s funeral resting, trying to come to terms with it all and most of all, trying your hardest to have a few days of doing nothing at all, before you have to have the funeral and really say goodbye! We were lucky enough to have an AMAZING funeral director who worked with us to get everything ready and who found us a cemetery that also did not charge us for their services, which was another blessing financially, because it too, is pretty expensive. Again, You can read my post, found under the category, “Helpful Information And Foundations” and titled, “Usual Fees Charged By Funeral Home and Cemetery” for more information about fees usually charged and the decisions that you will still have to make, even if services are provided for free. So, please take my advice and have the arrangements taken care of BEFORE you give birth, because even though it won’t make you feel any better, it will be one less thing that you have to worry about and it will save you from added stress during those first days after your loss! Now, If you do not already know, we live in Central Arkansas and I will list the funeral home and cemetery that we used, but if you are in another state that won’t help very much. So, if you live in another state, my advice is to first, ask your OBGYN if he knows anywhere that provides their services free (he may not know). Second, call your local Children’s Hospital and/or the hospital where you will be delivering and ask because those are two great places that may know or be able to point you in the right direction. Or you can do what I did and use Google! I Googled “funeral homes in Central Arkansas”, went down the list, visiting their websites or getting their phone numbers and then I started emailing the ones who had an email address on their website and calling the other ones, simply asking, “How much do you all charge for a funeral and everything for a baby?”. Some places did charge full price. Some places charged, but not as much as for an adult. But I got in contact with a few that didn’t charge at all! Then, once you have a funeral director who is working to set up everything with you, You can ask her if she knows of any cemeteries who provide their services free of charge, or you can Google local cemeteries and ask them how much they charge for an infant! I know it seems like a lot of work and a lot of stress, but you will be thankful that you got it done before baby’s birth, I can promise you that!

The funeral home we used was: Roller-Owens Funeral Home in N. Little Rock, Arkansas.
You can visit their website for contact information at:
http://www.rollerfuneralhomes.com/default.asp?locid=32

The cemetery we used was: Arkansas Memorial Gardens in N. Little Rock, Arkansas.
You can visit their website for contact information at:
http://www.arkansasmemorial.com/#!

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